Okay guys, I have to come clean! I’m freaking out!
I think part of BlueSphere’s success has been due to me being honest with my words. Well, I’ve really screwed that up in the last 8 months, haven’t I?
As you know I’ve fallen hard for my beautiful Samantha and Guinevere. The 3 of us are desperately trying to find our place in the world. I’ve decided that I really need to be honest with my words once again, for all of our sake. Sam is the only woman I’ve ever met who really understands what I want from life, and in turn, wants the same.
I’m not used to listening to other people’s opinions but have been doing so lately for Sam and Guin. Truthfully; I’m pulling my hair out. Society and the people around us are, albeit with the best intentions, pulling Guin toward the dark side. The dark side being this Harley Barbie, mall shopping, war mongering, “GIVE ME MORE”, disposable plastic society that is consuming mine, and a good majority of humanity’s very soul.
Anyway, I didn’t really feel like I was honest with my last Christmas log. Sam was up writing her perspective of our first Christmas together last night, and it has inspired me in a very positive way. These are her words:
Alex can’t sleep… I feel like I’m 14 and my parents don’t like my music… there’s a certain amount of inborn angst in being denied one’s auditory desires… oh well… I suppose one must expect some cons with pros… Xmas was certainly bizarre this year… don’t let this statement mislead you into thinking a holiday at the Aloise’s (my parents, part 1) has ever been Cleaver-like norm, but this year Christmas was uber-awkward.. the typical mom spaz out reemerged due to the brand new audience while Alex played his “wow, I’m really freaked out by your family” role to a tee- non alleviated by his one beacon of hope, my uncle bobby, who could only provide a cameo on this, our second major holiday together.. and then there is my father , a wonderful man who has been for years trying to disappear and finally, I think, may be succeeding.. all of this combined with Guinna, myself and Alex having our Christmas morning – the initial “Santa came mommy!” excitement- to ourselves without the grandparents, therefore unintentionally denying them some of the expected joy ( due to scheduling conflicts) for the first time in the history of Guinevere… and… the mere existence of Alex, my love, the dashingly-loving but similarly wanderlusted, not safe Florida family obligated, non-familiar Michael beau ( how’s that for a descriptor)… all added up for definitely a strange one.. let me not forget to mention Darrin whom, due to hangover plus an allergy to bivalves and some Xmas morning seafood curry paella , caused a common concern which along with a bonding desire for Guin to have a wonderful day, may have been the only reason the whole shebang didn’t come crashing down!
Wow, I cant believe Sam got that all into one sentence!!!
Funny, Alex : )
If you cant tell Sam and I are writing together.
Happy Holidays from the good ship “Splendid”!
Alex & Sam.
Well, happy holidays to all of you…
Happy happy and merry merry…whis you all the best.. Which world is going to be the one you choose??? Hope you both and Guin try to sail for awhile..
Get out there and go!!! My wife and I are here on the hard for awhile as we tend ailing,aging parents and my 48 year old sister in the hospital dying of cancer. I live “out there” with you as I read the logs. I love it that you have gone to you tube, seeing the videos makes it so real, I LOVE IT. Sorry, to thow cold water on the holidays but just when you think you have it bad, look around. Live for the day, and love the ones around you.
Peace, Dean
ps. all of the above just drives us closer to our time “out there”. Someday you will be watching my videos of sailing.
have a happy new year, why dont you take a year and sail your girls around their home port and enjoy some safe port sailing for awhile. looks to me that you have a nice thing going so dont blow it. have a nice day.
Alex.. i have been thinking about your log all morning. Now for what it is worth here are a few comments. i have had mixed emotions over your new found love . i thought oh know his dream is changing. i wont get to live my dream though him and his web site. i know now it is a selfish thought. i think you have found what we all in life look for. Most of us on here have a dream like yours. to sail the world and live life with the little bit of things that we need to survive. but by the same time experiance life to the fullest. That is what you have been doing. You have been going after your dreams. That to me is why your videos and site have been so inspiring. I long for the day when i can take up anchor on my boat and set sail for the places i have only read about. you have done that and for that i am thankful. I knew that after you met sam and guin your passion in life would change. i think we all long for true love in life and it is more then sails filled with wind or a distant land. It is the acceptance of some one else. to help us experiance life and in turn help them live there dreams . After reading your logs for over a year now i can say that you have found that in sam. she seems like a great person who for once does not try to extingish your passions but helps to make them come true. That my friend is a real gift and seldom found. now who knows what the future wili have in store. you may end up sailing the 7 seas with sam guin and barbi.
Or you might even end up in a little house not far from the ocean and do day sails . but what ever happens you will know that you have went after your dream and done it .so many of us came only dream of coming close to what you have found. Live free and slow and god bless.
“Sail far Live slow”
You have accomplished one ,now may be the time to try the other.
Happy Holidays
merry x-mas to my girl guin…………uncle ralph…or who-ever
Hey everyone this is Guin’s dad Mike. I’ve decided to start peeking in and in this case assure you the ‘dark side’ ain’t as dark as Alex might like to paint it.
Happiness to all.
mike
To quote a book I’m currently reading…
“Those who do not dream of cruising, cannot appreciate your dream”.
and more importantly…
“The pleasures of cruising are immeasurably improved by sharing them”.
Alex, you are a man making your own way in life. That is the whole point of what you are doing, to carve out an existence in this world that is satisfying, honorable, and enjoyable. It is what every man dreams of doing (in some form or fashion). Following the crowd can only result in a prefabricated existence. You know this better than most of us and having the ability to teach that to a child is priceless. To teach someone not only that dreams are OK, but can and will be reached by following your own path, one step at a time…
I know that whatever is in your future will turn out just fine. Because you are not the type of person to give up and settle for anything less than what you believe is right. If you have found what you love, I think you should go after it with the same passion and purpose that got you to where you are today.
Follow your heart and don’t worry!!!!!!!!
Really Alex? Always follow your dreams and your heart to lead you through life’s difficult times. There is a difference between following your dreams and using ill-logic. As a long time reader of your ship log, it is obvious that you’re long run dedication really lies with sailing, splendid, and the website. As of the recent, you’re throwing all your marbles into your lady friend. Moderation in all things is the truest way to live slowly. Best of Luck!
Alex, Sam and Mike.
Don’t sweat the small stuff ! My wife and I have been married for 26 years; and for 30 years ( we dated for 4 years before we got married ) my in-laws have thought I was nuts, and they have thought thier daughter was nuts for following my dreams with me. After all this time together; we have never been hungry, never been without shelter, always had clothes on our backs and most of all, we have always loved life and each other. Just a few days ago when we all got together for Christmas in Auburn Alabama, we had our little family spats and couldn’t believe ” Bobby said this or Jane did that “. At the end of the day, we may not understand each other, but we all still love each other and go our seperate ways. Individuality is what makes the world go round.
Alex, Love the girls with all your heart and provide them with thier needs.
Mike, If a guy treats your daughter and grand-daughter in that fashion and shows them the world in meantime…….
you should be forever greatfull to the heavens !!
Ken Dudley. Pensacola Florida
This is a chick with a kid, and now the “ex” is commenting on your blog…
Take my advice, PULL THE ANCHOR AND SAIL OFF!!!
You’re not in love with this chick you are in love with the “idea” of the instant family…
The Colombia chick was ten times hotter, and the Panama chick was 100 times HOTTER! And what about the Doctor in the South Pacific (that you barely mentioned)??? Somehow your gay personality seems to attract women all over the world. Why are you going crazy over this one???
Wow I have found out the hard way that you will not be happy living a life that other people think you need to live.You know what what you want. All it takes is the balls to do it good luck I say this from a veary cold sailboat and a girl that loves me is so pissed that I am not at her place tonight.good luck Alex
I guess I’m don’t really understand. Are you trying to say the folks don’t like you much? Don’t want you taking their girls away? Or is she materialistic and can’t stand the thought of leaving behind the mall?
In the vein of:
“I’ve decided that I really need to be honest with my words once again, for all of our sake. “
How about a bit of storytelling then? All the typing you do on this site – have you yet broken down the story of how you and Samantha got together? Or the fallout it created? I think you should post that story…or let Sam post it. Or if neither of you want to I’d be glad to…
I just think it might be nice if your fan base had a more comprehensive picture. It’s not as if Sam & Guin showed up in a vacuum with nobody to leave behind… So let’s hear the story. Anyone else want to hear it? It’s a doozy, I promise…
mike
And Ken Dudley nice thought – in the abstract – but I’m not Guin’s grandpa, I’m her dad. Please if you wouldn’t mind help me to understand how I’m supposed to live without her while she’s out being shown the world, regardless of how groovy and mild mannered her mommy’s new boyfriend seems to be?
And Ken Dudley nice thought – in the abstract – but I’m not Guin’s grandpa, I’m her dad. Please if you wouldn’t mind help me to understand how I’m supposed to live without her while she’s out being shown the world, regardless of how groovy and mild mannered her mommy’s new boyfriend seems to be?
wow! ok I’ll throw my two cents into the ring, you almost always end the blog with Peace, Love and Coconuts. Take em off to see the island life of the Kuna (?) If they love that then just keep going til you get to New Zeland. If they hate it then head back to Florida and poke around doing coastal cruising till they DO love it, then head off to wherever.
Wow, this is getting fun :) These interactive logs bring a whole new perspective.
dicks , dude, really? Are you still in Junior high?
As far as the Michael thing; Guin does have a father here who loves her very much and not having her around for 50% of the time must be is a bitter, and jagged pill to swallow.
Just a thought, have you thought of touching base with Tania Aeibi (I know I butchered her name)? Might be worth getting another sailors perspective on how she handled it. I know she went through something similar to what you’re going through now, then again I might just be talking out of my rear). Either way I wish you all the best! and may the best things that happened this year be the worst things to happen to you next.
Yes, we already exchanged emails with Tanya. The truth of it is everyone wants what is best for the child (Guin) and the decisions are only to be made by two people, her parents. Grandparents and friends (me) might put in our two cents, but the only people who matter are Sam and Michael. They need to work this all out.
Mike,
I didn’t realize Guin was your daughter. Sorry !
I can’t offer any further advise to something I know nothing about.
I’ll gracefully bow out of this conversation.
Alex,
I’ve followed your journey since day one and will continue to do so.
Follow your heart !
Ken Dudley, Pensacola
Thanks Ken.
I really think Mike is a good guy and feel confident this will all turn out as it should. The truth of the matter is everyone loves Guin and wants what is best for her. Naturally I will always be on Sam’s side.
Cheers
– Alex
Wow .this subject really fired up this site. well my thoughts are Love is great! but it also makes our thinking all foggy and emotional. time will work things out. where you are at alex things are changing by the hour. but dont push aside your dreams. the clock is ticking. carry on with your plans alex ,the rest will work itself out. If this is the love of a lifetime sail away. after a month or so your heart will know. I know , easier said than done. best luck to you all
Well I have been a long time follower of this site, but I will add my 2 cents:
My wife cheated on me over Thanksgiving, while I was working and she was in her hometown.. We have a 21 month old beautiful baby girl.. I had a 16 year old step daughter.. I have lost it all.. We are supposed to be taking time to work things out, but I find out she is flying to New Mexico to see this guy.. How can we work this out with a third party involved?? I am willing to work through the “initial incident’ but not through a planned rendezvous. Less than 60 days ago, I was minutes away from buying a Cal 36.. But now, it is all gone. I am relocating to Marco Island Florida for a new job and try to pick up the pieces.. I am at a lost emotionally right now.. I just don’t know what to do.. I am curious to see how your (Alex) situation plays out..
Mike, being in a similar situation, if you want to talk or vent, please email me.
Sorry,
I had to vent..
Kreg
Long story short: My parents divorced when I was very young.. I spent many years apart from my father, my mother remarried….
Dad will always be dad, no matter how much time or space passes between.
I’ve always loved my father and now have a good relationship with him. But I also grew to love and respect my step-father. He turned out to be the best person for my mother, and has been a great influence on my life.
My father was always a good dad and a willing participant in my life, but the bad blood between mom and dad prevented him from being the father I needed….
If my stepfather would have come into the picture earlier on, he may have helped me avoid years of turmoil as a confused child with no real direction or positive influence…
No father would want to let his kid go without a fight. But I promise, having a decent man step up to the plate so early in her life is a very positive thing.
That being said: Alex, if you are not ready to be a stepdad, don’t do it. If things don’t work out well, it could be more damaging than just leaving things alone… if you are the rebound guy, or worse, the crisis/lifesaver guy, no matter how in love you are, it probably won’t work out…its a shame, but its true.
But if you think you are ready then you probably are…don’t let anybody else influence your decisions as a man (not that you would).
Obviously none of us are there, and our opinions really don’t matter that much…
Just don’t let this get messy…there is nothing worse for a child than parents that fight.
The only thing I know for sure is, if I had to choose my childhood, being a cruising kid would possibly be the most rewarding upbringing there is…
Best of luck
I have to say, that I am not implying that Alex’s situation is in any way similar to mine. I just felt a connection with Mike reaching out and commenting on things..
I admire Alex and his accomplishments and I admire Mike and his situation.
Sorry if I crossed the line..
Kreg
I have to say, that I am not implying that Alex’s situation is in any way similar to mine. I just felt a connection with Mike reaching out and commenting on things..
I admire Alex and his accomplishments and I admire Mike and his situation.
Sorry if I crossed the line..
Kreg
Wow, this kinda stinks. I just found the sight the other day and was really excited about following the journey. Hope all the drama gets sorted out, I’m heading back to 2003 to read the posts! A stout ship and the smell of the sea is what I need!! ((anything to take my mind off the commute.))
good advice, reywrap
Johnny Solo
I have to say, that I am not implying that Alex’s situation is in any way similar to mine. I just felt a connection with Mike reaching out and commenting on things..
I admire Alex and his accomplishments and I admire Mike and his situation.
Sorry if I crossed the line..
Kreg
Wow, this kinda stinks. I just found the sight the other day and was really excited about following the journey. Hope all the drama gets sorted out, I’m heading back to 2003 to read the posts! A stout ship and the smell of the sea is what I need!! ((anything to take my mind off the commute.))
good advice, reywrap
Johnny Solo
I just want everyone to know that I have no hard feelings toward Alex or even Sam for that matter. I just felt there was a big white elephant in the room that nobody was discussing…that being me and whether I’m ok with Sam leaving with Alex with Guin in tow. I’m not against that. I’ve agreed to that. I just want this ‘reality’ to be actually real…
Thanks everyone for listening and offering advice. Sorry to have stormied the seas, as it were.
mike
Your dream since being a child was to see the world by boat. You have found the peace and life you have aways searched for in doing that. You have become the man you aways wanted to be. These are just some of your own words. I understand Love but a home in the suburbs will only cause you to ultimately blame the girls in the long run. If you can coastal cruise for the next 13 years and be happy with the girls and it works out THEIR past family issues with the faja, do it. Otherwise you know what you have to do deep in your heart. The father should have every right to his daughter. While you can modify your dreams a little you will not be able throw them away, for in reality, ONE of your loves. Good luck my friend.
Wow, sooo much drama today. I’ll be watching to see how this all unfolds as well. Sam wants to raise Guin in the world, traveling. I believe Mike does too, just a really hard nut to crack, not having your child around all the time and having to share custody. I’ve never been connected to someone through a child before. I’ve always been able to say “sea ya” and move on. The one thing I do know is this will all turn out as it should. I’ve gone out with Mike for beers and a few games of pool. I think we are all on the same page.
In the mean time I’m going back to work.
Peace everyone.
Alex
I’ve been reading your log forever, but religiously since before you left for the Galapagos, and if there’s one thing I learned about you it’s that you can’t stand the conventional American materialistic rat race. If you love these girls, you MUST SAVE THEM. Start small as somebody suggested above, keep to the Caribbean and Gulf of Mexico, show them Cartegena and Panama, and as it works out, cause it will work out, you’ll be ready for more far-flung adventures.
As far as pleasing the family goes, if you have to alter course 1 degree to please them, then something’s wrong with them. All I want for my 3 kids is to enjoy life and do whatever they’re going to do to the utmost. Don’t sip life, guzzle it, know what I mean? Well, I wish the same could be said for my elders. I’ve lived my whole life to please them, not always doing what I wanted. If they love us, they wouldn’t want us to miss out on our dreams, right? If the ex wants whats best for Guin, he’ll go along with it. If he wants to see her, he can buy a boat.
Hi Alex,
Sorry to interrupt and come up with something that has nothing to do about what is beeing discussed, as I was looking at Sora’s blogs I saw your friend Aki on a picture aboard playing guitar. Check their site he was at Johor Bahru in Malaysia.
All the best for the new year.
Luis in Toronto (Canada) Eh.
Luis, I herd from Cassy a few months ago. Aki, Cassy, and I were good friends. I’ll check out their site soon.
Cheers
Alex
Alex you stepped in a big one I had to read the log over to see that Mike is the Dad.I am a divorced father with1/2 custody for the last 8 years.I have dealt with 4 guys attempt to be the step Dad 2 of them knocked her up I only had a big problem with one of the guys .When you are with a woman with a child from another you get to deal with all the crap that comes with that. The Dad the fights between them ,money, his girlfriend ,here kids oh yea the cat fights between the Moms!!Alex the worst part of it all was when I drove up to pick up my kids and the other Dad pulls behind me to get his. ok thats not the worst but it really sucked Alex I have been with the site since it started hell I even sent you 100 bucks cause I like what your doing I would never let my ex take my kids away.But I don’t know the whole story good luck bro!!!
I agree with some of the comments about loving the instant family. I can’t say one way or the other all I know is it sounds a lot like how I spent 4 years of my life. It is not good for anyone. It took me a decade to finally know I made the right decision to leave her and here son. She is now married and lives in the burbs 1 mile from her parents and I spend over 1/2 my year on my boat with my family. Either sail away with them now or leave them behind you of all people know what ever will be will be. I would hate to see you repeat my same mistakes. I love sailing with my wife and kid but I there has never been a question about what our life was going to hold for us we were on the same page from day one. Don’t compromise good luck and happy new year.
Wow, what a log!!!
In the beginning of this whole log / discussion I was a bit upset. There are aspects of my life I like to keep private. However I think a lot of things that needed to be said were said and obviously I’m not the only person out there with the same issues
For all the people that think I’m giving something up, well…, your wrong. Sam would never let that happen. She knows I have to travel, there is no question about it. She would never try to keep me tied down in any way. She knows l could never be stuck in the burbs (again), or a coastal cruiser, it is not an option. It’s also very important for her to raise Guin in the world. and without boarders. She is a gypsy/hippie at heart as I am.
Mike is a very reasonable and intelligent guy. He has agreed to let Guin travel with us and understands it will be an amazing experience for her. The hard part is watching your daughter sail off, i can only imaging how difficult that would be. I believe if we all work together as friends we can give Guin a broad and unique view of the world and education. And I must admit, I’d like to be part of that.
I’d like to keep this topic open. If you would like to email me, please feel free.
Peace everyone.
– Alex
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Cranial MRI confirms that portion of our brain used for reason has decreased function with increased
stimulation of the lust and love deeper 4 million year old sections, and there respective hormones.
Like we needed an MRI to prove it, but now its factual. Pre-programmed.
I have an unplanned 5 y/o boy I wouldnt trade for any sailboat ride, yet dream everyday of doing
just that. Life is unfair and we all have daily battles.
This site has been great for dreaming, but maybe it needs to become more real?
Let the adventure continue…
Boyd
oh no! alex has lost his love and coconuts….
Might as well join the crowd, but will we still have peace bro?
I feel Alex has made good decisions on his path to maintain the peace, which
is probably why we all are attracted to the site.
Peace out
He has lived part of his dream maybe it is time for a new dream. i have a dream of going sailing soon my wife knows if she was to say,i do not want to go or try to stop me then it would work anymore.
we need our dreams
tadpole
Fancy new boat, nice new web site, yet no where to go. Welcome back to the real world!
Hi alex,
I guess we all have been in your shoes at one point or another. The point is ,is that there is nothing in the world that takes place over the love of a woman. No ocean,no island ,no adventure, nothing. There is nothing that can fill that void you have been looking to fill your whole life.. The only thing in life worth anything is love and if you have found it,you must not let it go. All the oceans in the world cant replace the love of a woman you believe in. Take heed any ponder a long time before you set sail alone again!!!!!!!!!!!!! Jay from the Keys
Alex, as the saying goes ,the sea is full of fish, leave the drama , be free, go cruising, as a step dad you always play second fiddle!
Alex,
Sorry for my prior statement, I was out of line.
The topic brought up my own personal feelings, which sometimes gets us in trouble.
I truly have enjoyed your logs and passion for sailing adventure, and have no right
to invade your personal life.
If anything, I’m envied at your ability to follow your dreams, and wish I had the
balls to do so myself.
Boyd
“Life is not about waiting for storms to pass, it’s about learning how to dance in the rain.”
We are very close to leaving this place, Alex and Sam. Don’t let ANYONE tell you that you cannot have your cake and eat it too(not to dehumanize you TOO much, Sam. HAH!). Anyone who tells you that you can’t leave with a girlfriend and a child, to cruise the world, circumnavigate, or just find yourself a nice deserted island in the South Pacific, is someone that is afraid of their own life and the things he/she is capable of.
I have accomplished some pretty amazing things in my life when nary a soul believed in me, or had anything positive to say for my efforts.
I am going sailing.
So are you.
I don’t care if i have to cut your anchor line in the night and drag you.
I’ve come to expect the same from you.
As for the rest of the naysayers… …Never tell a person what they are not capable of.
You just might end up feeling a little silly when we’re half a world away in some little slice of paradise with a child that knows 3 languages and can shoot her own underwater snacks.
keep on keepin’ on.
dRRn
Alex, or anyone else
My wife and I own a Hardin 45 and would love to see the world. I love to sail and cruise and have spent a year cruising the caribbean. I’m also a workaholic and can’t sit still. I’m a helicopter mechanic by trade and have spent most of my life around the boatyard in one shape, form or another.
From your experience; Is it possible for me to sail around the world over the next 15-20 years taking jobs in different marinas and boatyards for 6 months or so at a time before moving a few thousand miles down the road?
I want to cruise but I want to work and experience the local lifestyle also.
Ken Dudley, Pensacola Florida
Man, all you people in Florida! I just want to get out of the snow and get to Florida for some sun and a nice little boat to weekend in with the family!! Some of you are living my dream and don’t even know it.
Snowy commute today, with some snow blowing to ring in the New Year, yeah!!
WOW! Love the new site……didn’t realize your honesty would bring about such a forum, and not entirely sure I would this as the place for your current personal challenges!
Life is full of times that you are experiencing this very moment! All I can offer is advice based on my own experience. “If you think you have a problem, you usually do. Sometimes we just don’t want to be honest with ourselves to see the answer.” Freaking out as you called it – is also an individual red flag.
Have confidence in yourselves that you WILL figure out what is best for the three of you. Sam is a parent, she knows what is best for her little girl…..Alex you are a world traveller, meeting challenges that one may not ever face…..you know what is best for yourself….just listen.
Good luck!
Well, well…….Having just read the whole page…..all I can say is this is better than TV or a sharp stick in the eye….my how some can really raise the temp in a topic…..oh well….best thing to do Alex is what YOU want to do….it’s your idea, your web site, your boat, and if you want Sam and Guin along with you to share your experience, and their willing to go, then my friend GO FOR IT. You only live once so go for the gusto….Capt. Dave on S/V MORNING STAR.
I have left a husband almost 9 years ago, moved on a sailboat with a man that i have loved for all that time.
I was never on a sailboat before, I dont ever want to leave the boat. Planning on going on an adventure soon.
So go for the adventure. Good luck
I find all the postings that say Alex should take the girls with him if he really wants to interesting. It’s as if they simply discount the wishes of Guin’s father…that’s me. No hard feelings from me – I’m just surprised at the breadth of the comments here…from reasonable and open-minded to “it’s your dream don’t let this child’s closed-minded dad shut it down”. Hmm… It’s like people assume that just because I’m a uncomfortable with the thought of my 3 year old daughter leaving with a guy that my soon to be ex-wife only met a few months ago I must be this dimwit suburbanite. Who among you has been in this situation? Who has been confronted with this decision? I support the experience for my wonderful daughter 100-percent. But bridging the gap between my mind and my heart is still simply overwhelming…
Btw Alex you’re welcome for the spike in traffic.
;)
mike
Michael,
I don’t know why you’re finding this public forum the best way to communicate, but hell, I’ll go with it. First of all you have referred to Project BlueSphere as a “reality” show, which it is not. It is an on-line, docu-travel, adventure show, and the films I make are documentaries. Working in the radio industry I would think you would know the difference between “Reality” shows, and documentaries. Some aspects of my life I like to keep private, this being one of them. Second of all, I don’t care so much about the extra traffic as I’m not a ratings whore. I care about my website and want to help people along the way of fulfilling their dreams.
You have taken a number of opportunities here to make Sam look bad, and I’d like it to stop. It was really important to me, and Sam, for her to start writing for my website. You really slammed the hell out of her and I think you should be ashamed of yourself. She is a good woman and I think you know that. Sam never cheated on you as you implied in your first blog comment. She left you because she was unhappy, she had been unhappy for sometime, and for valid reasons. She really tried Michael. This should not be open to discussion where all of my subscribers can read it. The only reason I’m even doing this is to stop you from trying to make her look bad publicly.
Sam and I were friends for months before she moved out, and I’ve known her for 9 months now. I know you feel that she left you abruptly, but hey, it was a clean break. You also pulled the “married” card in this last blog comment. None of your friends or family knew that you were married. Granted you were to have a “party” to announce the fact that you were “already married” but Sam was insisting that there was to be no minister, and this was not to be a wedding. Michael, she was unhappy and left you. I know it hurts. I went to sea after a failed engagement when I found out my fiancé had been cheating on me for 8 months. It killed me. I left my home in California, my carrier, and everything I owned. I disappeared to heal in Canada. It took me a year to pull myself together, and once I did I started living my life for me. I decided I would never compromise my happiness or the happiness of others again. I knew my fiancé was unhappy but kept trying to make it work. I was fighting a battle I could never win. I picked up a camera started sharing my path and philosophy with others who wanted to share the same dream I had, sailing around the world.
I know you hurt and love Sam, how could you not? She cares about you very much and you are the father of her child. I’m not trying to become Guin’s father or replace you. Sam’s dream is to raise Guin in the world and share her life with me. Please try to respect this. If she becomes unhappy, I will let her go.
Sam is not asking for child support, nor is she trying to take more than 50% custody away from you. She merely wants to raise her daughter the way she believes is best for her, half of the time. There is nothing she could do to be fairer with the exception of staying here and throwing away her dreams. I don’t think you want this?
Now a bit from my perspective. I listen to you on the radio and respect your political and moral views on the world. I think you are a good man who is hurt. If I had anything to do with this I’m truly sorry, really.
If you want to continue this discussion publicly that’s fine. I believe this is “our” baggage and think it should be private. The choice is yours.
My door is always open.
– Alex
WOW…..on a positive note, at least you are all being very honest with eachother.
Once again, great job on the new site and thank you for sharing all your boating knowledge along the way. I am definitely going to seek out the GPS unit you mentioned for email purposes. We “boaters” certainly enjoy following you along the way with your documentary.
Happy New Year and wishing you love, health & happiness in 2009!
First of all I never meant to imply Sam cheated on me with you. I never thought she did. I was only referring to the abrupt…transition shall we say. And whether you mean your site/life to be a reality show or not the instant my daughter became part of the storyline – home movies and all – it became one to me. And as far as ‘playing the married card’ goes…it just is what it is.
I respect you Alex and the life you’ve chosen to live. I’ve agreed to trust you with my daughter’s life…that should tell you something, right?
mike
gentlemen ! I appreciate the honesty and the pain you are both feelin. However, “gentlemen” do not air their laundry in public and this topic has nothing to do with why we all enjoy this site so much. I feel as if I’ve been caught in a fight between two friends and it is very uncomfortable and a little embarrassing. Alex, invite Mike over to the boat for a few beers and honest, heart to heart discussion. No audience. Come to an agreement You are both reasonable, logical, mature, adult men, who want the best for Guin. Put your heads together rather then butting heads with each other… you’ll solve it! and we can all get back to whats really critical like GOIN SAILIN ;^) !!
love and Aloha. wishing you all a “Hauoli Maka Hiki Ho ” (happy new year)
Capt Dave R
My apologies to the group for butting in. Just bear in mind everyone that not everyone believes GOIN SAILIN is really all that critical. There’s way more than one way to happiness and peace of mind on this big blue sphere…
:)
mike
Well I hoping this is all trickling to an end.
Mike, not everyone believes that “going sailing” is critical, however it is what keeps allot of men up at night. If we dont have our dreams, what do we have? We are having this discussion in an arena of people who strongly believe in this.
Michael, Captain Dave is right, why don’t we go out for a game of pool and a few drinks again? I’m hoping we can all find peace, and our place in 2009.
– Alex