Comments on: Depression https://www.projectbluesphere.com/2014/08/14/Depression/ Land and Sea Sun, 09 Nov 2014 03:38:19 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.2 By: Alex https://www.projectbluesphere.com/2014/08/14/Depression/#comment-5339 Sun, 09 Nov 2014 03:38:19 +0000 #comment-5339 Ken,

Thanks for being brave and sharing. It’s important for men to communicate with each other to know we are not alone and find support.

Still have that shoelace? I’d make a necklace out of it or something :)

Suicide is a permanent solution to usually a temporary set of problems.

Go man, go. Go live whatever way you want, find peace, and pursue Love.

Thank you for your words.

]]> By: fishin4bogey https://www.projectbluesphere.com/2014/08/14/Depression/#comment-5328 Sat, 08 Nov 2014 18:06:57 +0000 #comment-5328 This is an excellent post,and you’re absolutely correct. Being stubborn, prideful men often gets us in trouble.

I’ve tried checking out also. I was at a place where I was looking for hope, and there was none to be found. I was recovering from a bad accident, and doing well, but unable to support myself during this recovery. Having my family there to help me was both a blessing and a curse. They were helping me every step of the way, yet arguing as to who’s turn it was to take care of me. I felt like the stray dog nobody wanted. We’ve all heard “sticks and stones” well let me tell you, words do hurt, and they can drive you to the darkest parts of your mind. I was going to walk in front of an 18 wheeler coming down the road. As I stepped out of my truck my shoe lace got caught on the clutch pedal, and I couldn’t get out of the dang thing. The truck sped by. I looked on my sun visor and saw a picture of my niece holding her favorite dolly looking right at me. I know then I would be fine and the stuff I was feeling was just stupid bullshit. I buckled down, and started really busting my ass with physical therapy. I wanted out of there, and in a hurry. Two days after the doctor cleared me, and all the legal/medical stuff was cleared up, I tore ass out of the driveway in Connecticut, and made a bee-line back to Florida.

Now here I am some twelve years later. I quit my job yesterday. Had I stayed there, I would have had a heart attack, stroke, or a combination of the two. Have a few interviews lined up this week to get something local, and away from long haul trucking. Two more credit cards, and I’m debt free.

Alex, I’m right where you are back in the day. Failed engagement, a job I hate ( well not anymore since I quit) and wondering what the hell am I doing with my life. I buried my best friend a little over two years ago. Pancreatic cancer. He was 48. In that church I said to myself…no more. I may not sail around the world. I may just bounce around the Caribbean, and it’ll still be a few years before I go, but I am going. So for now I’ll be working, paying bills, dealing with traffic, and saving money. It’s astounding how much money you have when you aren’t writing a fat check to your friends Visa, American Express, and Kay Jewelers….boy I was glad to pay that one off….

Keep smiling…..

Ken.

]]> By: Alex https://www.projectbluesphere.com/2014/08/14/Depression/#comment-5021 Fri, 12 Sep 2014 18:24:13 +0000 #comment-5021 :) this was a good post. I’m really happy I wrote it. Land yacht or not, find a way to make it happen. The sea is the great nutralizer. It puts life into perspective. I love removing myself from society and wrapping myself In the warm blanket of peace. For me, I can only do this on a boat. I’m not much of a land person. I maybe touch land once a week, in San Blas maybe every two :)

In my very humble opinion anti-depressants are a killer. One must find the root of the problem at all cost and fix it. If I had to go back to bills, traffic, and work I wouldn’t last a month before checking out. To me it’s just not worth it.

]]> By: fletch https://www.projectbluesphere.com/2014/08/14/Depression/#comment-5020 Sat, 23 Aug 2014 18:37:00 +0000 #comment-5020 Thanks Alex.

]]> By: capt ron https://www.projectbluesphere.com/2014/08/14/Depression/#comment-5019 Sat, 23 Aug 2014 07:11:32 +0000 #comment-5019 I have had a roller coaster of a ride for the past 5 years. There were days I didn’t want to get out of bed, couldn’t. I never imagined in my happy youth, now 47, I could become an addict with related depression. I always told myself though that I had a plan B , to sail away from it all. My internal safety net to avoid thoughts of suicide. It worked. I got thru. I fought, because that dream I will not let die!! Your site has been a life line to this process. I live in an RV, land yacht I k ow, but it does provide some senses of freedom. Push on bro

]]> By: Alex https://www.projectbluesphere.com/2014/08/14/Depression/#comment-5018 Tue, 19 Aug 2014 18:50:38 +0000 #comment-5018 Ray,
Good for you! In my opinion there is no grater gift for your family than freeing them from society and giving them the world. Cruising kids are the coolest and most switched on of all. I hope your refit goes well.

Peace

]]> By: Capt Ray Towner https://www.projectbluesphere.com/2014/08/14/Depression/#comment-5017 Tue, 19 Aug 2014 01:09:56 +0000 #comment-5017 I was also shocked that one of my Heroes succumbed to the darkness. I pray everyday that more people find the strength to remove the Fear and walk bravely through the gates of Freedom as you have. I am not Free, but I am moving in that direction. 3 years ago I unplugged the TV. Last year I acquired a Vessel. A Morgan 41. She is Gutted and now Undergoing a serious Refit. With the little Time and Money I Have, I am inching my family towards Freedom and real life. It is difficult but a worthwhile Endeavor. I have followed your story and others like it for some time. I tell everyone I can to think for themselves and show them your website as proof it can be done. Stop letting Rich Men get even more wealthy off of your Labor, While they Lounge in the utmost Luxury laughing at you. Most people feel too trapped to change. I will miss Mr. Williams and the laughter he brought. Thank You!

]]> By: Alex https://www.projectbluesphere.com/2014/08/14/Depression/#comment-5016 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 19:50:57 +0000 #comment-5016 Tim, no worries, duplication happens sometimes. I’m hoping to move to a wordpress environment soon.

I’ve considered suicide about as deep as anyone can. And I must say I do consider it a viable option especially in cases of sickness. However most suicides are not a result of a terminal condition or a medical condition that make day to day life unbearable. It’s usually a situation easily changed or a chemical condition due to something as simple as an improper diet, drug, or alcohol abuse.

Sometimes the pit seems just too deep and if people want to live they must change their situation. I felt absolutely trapped by society, bills, and imposed responsibility. My cure was to simply leave everything where it was and drive away. What really blows my mind it when people stay in unhappy and destructive relationships. Many people think that staying in a destructive relationship is best for the children, but in my very humble opinion teaching house children that life within such a relationship is normal or acceptable is far more damaging than divorce.

I’m glad to throw my story out into the open. With Project BlueSphere it is just my goal to share a secret door, and a way out of a society that I believe to be poisonous.

Tincho, if I were ever to live on land it would be in Patagonia, I know of a really nice down east 32 that can be had here for a very fair price?

Peace

]]> By: Tim https://www.projectbluesphere.com/2014/08/14/Depression/#comment-5015 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 06:19:41 +0000 #comment-5015 Whoa. Duplication a day later? Alex, maybe you could delete that second post? Dunno how that happened.

]]> By: Tim https://www.projectbluesphere.com/2014/08/14/Depression/#comment-5014 Sun, 17 Aug 2014 06:09:53 +0000 #comment-5014 I think, in Robin’s case, the prospect of Parkinson’s disease was just too much to manage. Up to that point, he might’ve held on, but being faced with the very publicly viewed Michael J. Fox and his struggles, well that’s a load for someone not already depressed. It seems he had a plan. Word is, he had 4 major projects in the can, so there’s the nest egg for the family. Then he went out his way. While suicide is a tragedy, and the absolute emptiness one feels when contemplating it is indescribable, I think, there are some instances where the person simply cannot bear the thought of the “glorious struggle for one last breath,” as it were. The prospect of not being able to perform and do the one thing he absolutely needed to do, while being relegated to a progressively debilitated condition would appear to have been something he was not willing to face. Some battles are just too horrible to consider. We can always armchair quarterback with talk of hope and new treatments, and maybe that’s enough for some people, but not for all.
“Living is making choices!” – STAR TREK:TNG (Hey, you gain wisdom where you can).
Death is part of life, and I believe Robin took the next step in his life, by choosing his death in a way he could control. It tears at the very core of our souls to know this, to consider the despair he was feeling, but it has come to pass. He has gone beyond the rim, his memory forever bright in our memories. May we all be so fortunate.
It also serves to further the lesson Alex speaks of. We are here for a short time. Live for today.

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