Comments on: A new year approaching! https://www.projectbluesphere.com/2008/12/27/A-new-year-approaching/ Land and Sea Fri, 02 Jan 2009 19:29:43 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.2 By: Alex https://www.projectbluesphere.com/2008/12/27/A-new-year-approaching/#comment-137 Fri, 02 Jan 2009 19:29:43 +0000 #comment-137 Well I hoping this is all trickling to an end.

Mike, not everyone believes that “going sailing” is critical, however it is what keeps allot of men up at night. If we dont have our dreams, what do we have? We are having this discussion in an arena of people who strongly believe in this.

Michael, Captain Dave is right, why don’t we go out for a game of pool and a few drinks again? I’m hoping we can all find peace, and our place in 2009.

– Alex

]]> By: mikekiniry https://www.projectbluesphere.com/2008/12/27/A-new-year-approaching/#comment-136 Fri, 02 Jan 2009 16:48:16 +0000 #comment-136 My apologies to the group for butting in. Just bear in mind everyone that not everyone believes GOIN SAILIN is really all that critical. There’s way more than one way to happiness and peace of mind on this big blue sphere…

:)

mike

]]> By: captdave.r@mac.com https://www.projectbluesphere.com/2008/12/27/A-new-year-approaching/#comment-135 Fri, 02 Jan 2009 10:37:05 +0000 #comment-135 gentlemen ! I appreciate the honesty and the pain you are both feelin. However, “gentlemen” do not air their laundry in public and this topic has nothing to do with why we all enjoy this site so much. I feel as if I’ve been caught in a fight between two friends and it is very uncomfortable and a little embarrassing. Alex, invite Mike over to the boat for a few beers and honest, heart to heart discussion. No audience. Come to an agreement You are both reasonable, logical, mature, adult men, who want the best for Guin. Put your heads together rather then butting heads with each other… you’ll solve it! and we can all get back to whats really critical like GOIN SAILIN ;^) !!
love and Aloha. wishing you all a “Hauoli Maka Hiki Ho ” (happy new year)

Capt Dave R

]]> By: mikekiniry https://www.projectbluesphere.com/2008/12/27/A-new-year-approaching/#comment-134 Fri, 02 Jan 2009 05:28:08 +0000 #comment-134 First of all I never meant to imply Sam cheated on me with you. I never thought she did. I was only referring to the abrupt…transition shall we say. And whether you mean your site/life to be a reality show or not the instant my daughter became part of the storyline – home movies and all – it became one to me. And as far as ‘playing the married card’ goes…it just is what it is.

I respect you Alex and the life you’ve chosen to live. I’ve agreed to trust you with my daughter’s life…that should tell you something, right?

mike

]]> By: svorion@hotmail.com https://www.projectbluesphere.com/2008/12/27/A-new-year-approaching/#comment-133 Fri, 02 Jan 2009 05:03:29 +0000 #comment-133 WOW…..on a positive note, at least you are all being very honest with eachother.

Once again, great job on the new site and thank you for sharing all your boating knowledge along the way. I am definitely going to seek out the GPS unit you mentioned for email purposes. We “boaters” certainly enjoy following you along the way with your documentary.

Happy New Year and wishing you love, health & happiness in 2009!

]]> By: Alex https://www.projectbluesphere.com/2008/12/27/A-new-year-approaching/#comment-132 Thu, 01 Jan 2009 21:56:29 +0000 #comment-132 Michael,

I don’t know why you’re finding this public forum the best way to communicate, but hell, I’ll go with it. First of all you have referred to Project BlueSphere as a “reality” show, which it is not. It is an on-line, docu-travel, adventure show, and the films I make are documentaries. Working in the radio industry I would think you would know the difference between “Reality” shows, and documentaries. Some aspects of my life I like to keep private, this being one of them. Second of all, I don’t care so much about the extra traffic as I’m not a ratings whore. I care about my website and want to help people along the way of fulfilling their dreams.

You have taken a number of opportunities here to make Sam look bad, and I’d like it to stop. It was really important to me, and Sam, for her to start writing for my website. You really slammed the hell out of her and I think you should be ashamed of yourself. She is a good woman and I think you know that. Sam never cheated on you as you implied in your first blog comment. She left you because she was unhappy, she had been unhappy for sometime, and for valid reasons. She really tried Michael. This should not be open to discussion where all of my subscribers can read it. The only reason I’m even doing this is to stop you from trying to make her look bad publicly.

Sam and I were friends for months before she moved out, and I’ve known her for 9 months now. I know you feel that she left you abruptly, but hey, it was a clean break. You also pulled the “married” card in this last blog comment. None of your friends or family knew that you were married. Granted you were to have a “party” to announce the fact that you were “already married” but Sam was insisting that there was to be no minister, and this was not to be a wedding. Michael, she was unhappy and left you. I know it hurts. I went to sea after a failed engagement when I found out my fiancé had been cheating on me for 8 months. It killed me. I left my home in California, my carrier, and everything I owned. I disappeared to heal in Canada. It took me a year to pull myself together, and once I did I started living my life for me. I decided I would never compromise my happiness or the happiness of others again. I knew my fiancé was unhappy but kept trying to make it work. I was fighting a battle I could never win. I picked up a camera started sharing my path and philosophy with others who wanted to share the same dream I had, sailing around the world.

I know you hurt and love Sam, how could you not? She cares about you very much and you are the father of her child. I’m not trying to become Guin’s father or replace you. Sam’s dream is to raise Guin in the world and share her life with me. Please try to respect this. If she becomes unhappy, I will let her go.

Sam is not asking for child support, nor is she trying to take more than 50% custody away from you. She merely wants to raise her daughter the way she believes is best for her, half of the time. There is nothing she could do to be fairer with the exception of staying here and throwing away her dreams. I don’t think you want this?

Now a bit from my perspective. I listen to you on the radio and respect your political and moral views on the world. I think you are a good man who is hurt. If I had anything to do with this I’m truly sorry, really.

If you want to continue this discussion publicly that’s fine. I believe this is “our” baggage and think it should be private. The choice is yours.

My door is always open.

– Alex

]]> By: mikekiniry https://www.projectbluesphere.com/2008/12/27/A-new-year-approaching/#comment-131 Thu, 01 Jan 2009 18:38:07 +0000 #comment-131 I find all the postings that say Alex should take the girls with him if he really wants to interesting. It’s as if they simply discount the wishes of Guin’s father…that’s me. No hard feelings from me – I’m just surprised at the breadth of the comments here…from reasonable and open-minded to “it’s your dream don’t let this child’s closed-minded dad shut it down”. Hmm… It’s like people assume that just because I’m a uncomfortable with the thought of my 3 year old daughter leaving with a guy that my soon to be ex-wife only met a few months ago I must be this dimwit suburbanite. Who among you has been in this situation? Who has been confronted with this decision? I support the experience for my wonderful daughter 100-percent. But bridging the gap between my mind and my heart is still simply overwhelming…

Btw Alex you’re welcome for the spike in traffic.

;)

mike

]]> By: trish https://www.projectbluesphere.com/2008/12/27/A-new-year-approaching/#comment-130 Thu, 01 Jan 2009 09:10:53 +0000 #comment-130 I have left a husband almost 9 years ago, moved on a sailboat with a man that i have loved for all that time.
I was never on a sailboat before, I dont ever want to leave the boat. Planning on going on an adventure soon.
So go for the adventure. Good luck

]]> By: captain dave https://www.projectbluesphere.com/2008/12/27/A-new-year-approaching/#comment-129 Thu, 01 Jan 2009 07:51:16 +0000 #comment-129 Well, well…….Having just read the whole page…..all I can say is this is better than TV or a sharp stick in the eye….my how some can really raise the temp in a topic…..oh well….best thing to do Alex is what YOU want to do….it’s your idea, your web site, your boat, and if you want Sam and Guin along with you to share your experience, and their willing to go, then my friend GO FOR IT. You only live once so go for the gusto….Capt. Dave on S/V MORNING STAR.

]]> By: svorion@hotmail.com https://www.projectbluesphere.com/2008/12/27/A-new-year-approaching/#comment-128 Thu, 01 Jan 2009 05:17:55 +0000 #comment-128 WOW! Love the new site……didn’t realize your honesty would bring about such a forum, and not entirely sure I would this as the place for your current personal challenges!

Life is full of times that you are experiencing this very moment! All I can offer is advice based on my own experience. “If you think you have a problem, you usually do. Sometimes we just don’t want to be honest with ourselves to see the answer.” Freaking out as you called it – is also an individual red flag.

Have confidence in yourselves that you WILL figure out what is best for the three of you. Sam is a parent, she knows what is best for her little girl…..Alex you are a world traveller, meeting challenges that one may not ever face…..you know what is best for yourself….just listen.

Good luck!

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